As we prepare to leave California and head onward I am thinking and praying about Pastor Susan and her work here in Los Banos as a Pastor's wife. Most people have no idea what the life of a pastor's wife really is about. It's about being the Pastor's Wife, his help meet, his companion in God's work. And it's about being a role model for other women to model after.
It's about juggling healthy meals for her family when she's just come from a meeting and leaving again in 1 hour for another one.
It's about cooking special things for guest ministers - she has to be knowledgeable about their tastes and needs. This means paying attention to conversations - and then remembering about each one!
It's about travel. Many hours are spent in the car as a pastor's wife. Why? Errands to run for the church, for different departments, for the office staff, for the Pastor himself. Errands to run for the family - kids - home - pets - grocery store - cleaners - banking - pharmacy. (yes even Pastors have regular lives too)
It's about being the called one of God to be the companion for the man of God. To stand by his side and represent him well, to encourage him and have a positive word for him in the time of need. It's about being his girlfriend, his best friend, and his completely trustworthy confidante in this world. Hearing his sermons and praying for him constantly, and laughing and crying and going through all the hardships of ministry closely by his side. It's the alone place that God calls certain women to - for the personal lives of his shepherds who are caring for God's family.
A pastor's wife is involved in the details of his work - so he can focus on the big picture of the whole church at large. She helps him carry his burdens.
She uses her moments to think, plan and schedule the next things on her daily lists to do. Think .... think.... think.... lists.... lists.... lists. A quiet moment in the car - becomes her office at the moment.
It's about learning to read her man, and be understanding when he is tired, or needs some special tlc. Not judging - or giving opinions unless asked - trying carefully not to get in God's way and will for the ministry of her husband.
It's finding time to work on her own interests and ideas for the future. Pastor's wives normally have messy offices - I have never met one that has enough time to keep her office tiptop - they usually too busy keeping the lives of others running smoothly! We all love our offices - but rarely have time to just sit and enjoy them.
Sometimes it's being stretched into areas that she never thought she would do - simply because the need is great for workers and others don't step up - so she's got to! There will be special crowns in Heaven for pastor's wives who saw the need and simply started filling it - without the notice of others or being especially talented to do it. Just did it when the need arose. Amazing crowns to come on their beloved obedient heads!!!
It's being compassionate and praying for the needs of the congregation. Pulling out all stops of being tired, or drained or even in need herself - just reaching out for them as the Lord would have her to do.
It's a loving touch here and there, an encouraging smile and a calm spirit for others to gain courage from just seeing her. Balancing her day timer, her Bible and water to reach to the need of someone else.
It's handling the opening of many types of doors in the lives of many people. Doors of faith, doors of hope, doors of the Word and doors of confidence. She not only tells them of the good news of the Gospel - she shows them by her own actions.
A pastor's wife is called by God to stand beside the man of God and help him pray open doors of opportunity and doors of blessing. Whatever two agree on as touching anything... shall come to pass according to what the Bible says.
Pastor's wives need other pastor's wives for friendship - if you are one you know what I mean. We are often unseen but important part of God's work in the earth.
It's a critical calling - a crucial one in this day and hour - one that if God has chosen you to be a pastor's wife - then it's a place of God's will in this life for you, and a crown in Heaven awaiting!
Proverbs 31:31
Give her of the fruit of her hands and let her own works praise her in the gates
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